Forgiveness: Not Just For Fairytales

Forgiveness is a strong word. It is a necessary word if you want to live a full life. I have found at times it is a hard thing to give, but I am a better person when I do. How about you? Do you find it hard or is it easy to forgive? Sometimes lessons I have learned in life don’t really, truly sink in until I have read about someone else’s experience whether it is fiction or nonfiction. Following is one of those instances.

Recently, I read a retelling of the Cinderella story titled, Cinderella and the Colonel by K.M. Shea.  Cinderella is attempting to scratch out a living in the aftermath of a war and a hostile takeover. Of course the Colonel’s country was the victor and you can imagine all that they will have to overcome to have a fairytale ending. Through the Colonel’s courtship of Cinderella he helps her learn to forgive and this is what I found so appropriate for America today. He tells her “Hate cannot drive out hate. … If you can forgive us, you will set not only yourself free, but your countrymen as well. I want you to have the courage to forgive. I want you to be the person to save our countries.”


America needs forgiveness

Here, in America, there is not a conquering country (or religion, yet) but two political parties who have become so polarized and hateful of each other. Friends and families are being torn apart by something that was meant to be a good thing. We are not a utopian society. We used to take pride in our differences and our ability to work around said differences.  I am not going to address my opinions on how we got here. After all, it isn’t about who our president is or our congressmen. This is a heart issue, a relationship issue, an issue that needs to be addressed in a personal way. Are we not a government that is of the people, for the people, by the people? Ultimately, this is about each of us and who we allow to shape our opinions, our words, our actions.

Forgiveness takes strength

I don’t have a very high opinion of mainstream media, I believe they are more about pushing propaganda than they are about giving us facts. I place part of the blame for the hatred in this country at their feet. We need to stop following blindly and we need to start actively seeking solutions to heal our country. In Cinderella and the Colonel, the Colonel states, “You can conquer a country with forgiveness.” He also shares this truth, “Forgiveness takes a great deal of personal strength. A weak person cannot forgive, and their actions will keep them captive and fester like an infected wound.”  I am not talking about the type of forgiveness that is followed with a but … I am talking about the type of forgiveness that involves conversation, learning each other’s point of view, sharing a coffee or tea and working from there. Don’t listen to the news or read an article on Facebook and share it along with the hatred that usually goes with it. Let love and forgiveness reign.  Let it conquer the hatred in our world. As the Colonel told Cinderella, “ Forgiveness, in the case of our country, is forging ahead together.”

One person at a time

I leave you with this thought, when Cinderella was overwhelmed with the idea that she should be responsible for healing her country she asks, “How can I change a country when my reach is only to Werra?” I have asked myself that question many times when I see the hurt and the pain and the hate in this world. How can I really have an effect, my circle is so small? Well, how many times have we said ‘it’s a small world’? Let’s change our small world. One friend, one family member at a time.


“Mother of Grace,” a new adventure


There are many definitions for grace. Grace is elegance or beauty of form, manner, motion or action. Grace is favor or goodwill. Grace is mercy, pardon. Grace is also a name, my daughter’s name. Our home at one time served as a hospital, Mother of Grace Hospital. Grace is everywhere.  It can be applied to all areas of our lives. We all need some of it in our lives. This is our journey.


I love to cook and bake! My personal Pinterest account is FULL of recipes and ideas. I will be sharing recipes and more. There are so many things that I miss about living in the city.  Restaurants and grocery stores are right up there at the top of my list.  Some of my recipes will be my version of our family’s favorite meals to order when we are out of town.  Also, cupcakes are a bit of an obsession! You will see quite a bit of them here. Occasionally, I will be comparing different recipes for the same thing and sharing the pros and cons for each recipe. I am always looking for the perfect chocolate chip cookie or cutout cookie recipe!

Family Life

Life is tough, we all know it.  Learning to live a life of grace is not easy. I will be sharing what I have learned and what I am learning on this journey. Whether it is our relationships with family, friends or community, we all need to learn to show mercy and goodwill, and sometimes that is easier said than done. Our kids have had a tough time when we moved to rural America.  There are pros and cons to living in a rural community just like there are living in a big city. Mom and Dad have struggled a bit, too. I know we are not alone.


Recently, I had to quit my full time job. Since we are down an income my husband and I set out on a new journey of budgeting and getting rid of debt at the same time. Oh boy, has this been a challenge! He asked me to include finances on my blog to help us stay accountable. We are learning to apply grace to this area of our life as well.  Both of us have had to show mercy towards the other at times. It may be cliche, but it is hard to teach an old dog new tricks. Also, we have a son about to graduate high school and we want to help him be better than us in this area. So, I will be sharing tips and ideas for helping young adults be successful with their money.


I love books! I love movies! I like to escape to another place and another time, occasionally. There are life lessons in books, movies, sitcoms and such, more than what is on the surface at times. Because of this, I will be sharing what I have learned from some of these and I hope that you will share with me as well.



This 90+ year old home is in desperate need of some loving.  I am blessed to be married to a man that knows how to use his hands. He can do pretty much anything when it comes to flooring and building, so he is in charge of our home remodel. Our journey to fix it up will be documented here along with tips and ideas. Also, my boys and husband enjoy building things when they have the time and I will be sharing their projects here.


Grace is a part of all of our lives. In my life she’s my daughter, my house, and I’m learning to live a life of grace in the every day adventures. I hope you join me on this journey!